| Dating Challenge: Crossing the 'Friend Zone' | |
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iBlacknite2.0 Veteran Member Lv3: F***ing Heavy Poster!!
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| Subject: Dating Challenge: Crossing the 'Friend Zone' Sat Jun 07, 2008 12:00 am | |
| You've had feelings for your friend for a while and you're worried about crossing the line and ruining the friendship. That's not really true, of course, but that's what you keep telling yourself so you can justify not putting yourself on the line and risking rejection.
Sure -- it's possible to love a friend of the opposite sex without picturing him or her in bed. Having feelings for your friend doesn't necessarily prove Harry's theory in "When Harry Met Sally" who famously declared that "No man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her."
There are exceptions to Harry's rule, but one thing is certain -- being seen as just a friend by all the people you want to date can be frustrating. So here are a few ways to prevent being stuck in (cue scary music): 'The Friend Zone':
1. Do Flirt It's okay if romance is on your brain when you greet your friend. In fact, it can fuel the chemistry. It's good for your friend to catch you subtly checking him or her out. As long as you're not drooling or gawking, it can be sexy. You want your friend to think he or she imagined the look. Light touching and sincere and specific compliments are great for flirting, too.
2. Don't Be the Problem Solver Are you on speed dial every time your friend needs something fixed or wants to process a bad relationship? It's nice to help your friend occasionally, but make sure you're not the one he or she associates with problems.
If you do come over to help, mention that you're happy to assist for an hour but have plans after that. Better to remain a little mysterious and have your friend wondering who else is getting your attention. 3. Have Fun
Create unique memories. You're aware of your friend's passions, so initiate fun and interesting activities that you know your friend will enjoy but isn't doing with others. And -- if someone has dumped you, confide in a friend you don't have feelings for! Remember to keep an upbeat attitude and stay confident -- those are two of the most attractive qualities cited by singles when looking for a mate.
Of course, not every friendship ends with a romantic happy ending and you may have to be prepared that your crush just wants to stay your friend. You'll have to decide if that's enough for you.
In the meantime, if you feel like you often end up in the friend zone with people you want to date, plant some of these seeds and see if anything grows in your relationship. Sometimes a glass of wine or a flirtatious exchange can change the dynamic... and you look at each other and wonder why it took so long. | |
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kandi Member
Number of posts : 62 Age : 37 Location : All Bout Points : 0 Registration date : 2007-08-10
| Subject: Re: Dating Challenge: Crossing the 'Friend Zone' Mon Jun 30, 2008 12:02 am | |
| Thanx for your words of wisdom | |
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iBlacknite2.0 Veteran Member Lv3: F***ing Heavy Poster!!
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| Subject: Re: Dating Challenge: Crossing the 'Friend Zone' Mon Jun 30, 2008 6:12 am | |
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SexyKammy Super Elite Member
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| Subject: Re: Dating Challenge: Crossing the 'Friend Zone' Mon Jun 30, 2008 2:56 pm | |
| dude when since you became on expert on relationships and stuff Dr. Nite hmmm you doing study at utech | |
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Courage Member
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| Subject: Re: Dating Challenge: Crossing the 'Friend Zone' Tue Jul 01, 2008 2:05 pm | |
| that is pretty good advice cuz many times u meet a sweet girl that is ur friend she drives u crazy and u leave it as good frens and u spen the rest of your life with someone u dnt love as much wanderin WHAT IF. at the same time though you need to ask yourself these questions. Is changing the relationship worth it? am i prepared to go all the way or is it just infatuation? if i dnt wanna go all the way what is gonna happen wen we break up are we still gonna be friends? How close as friends are we gonna be? | |
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iBlacknite2.0 Veteran Member Lv3: F***ing Heavy Poster!!
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| Subject: Re: Dating Challenge: Crossing the 'Friend Zone' Tue Jul 01, 2008 3:59 pm | |
| - Courage wrote:
- that is pretty good advice cuz many times u meet a sweet girl that is ur friend she drives u crazy and u leave it as good frens and u spen the rest of your life with someone u dnt love as much wanderin WHAT IF. at the same time though you need to ask yourself these questions. Is changing the relationship worth it? am i prepared to go all the way or is it just infatuation? if i dnt wanna go all the way what is gonna happen wen we break up are we still gonna be friends? How close as friends are we gonna be?
yep i know what u mean | |
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PAPoUCH Super Elite Lv2: Jr. Vet
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iBlacknite2.0 Veteran Member Lv3: F***ing Heavy Poster!!
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PAPoUCH Super Elite Lv2: Jr. Vet
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| Subject: Re: Dating Challenge: Crossing the 'Friend Zone' Tue Jul 01, 2008 4:33 pm | |
| thanks for the correction.
Nugga do you ever have a sense of humor | |
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Darklord Demeitri Moderator
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| Subject: Re: Dating Challenge: Crossing the 'Friend Zone' Tue Jul 01, 2008 8:16 pm | |
| - Papouch wrote:
- thanks for the correction.
Nugga do you ever have a sense of humor only when the joke is not on him......that nugga should chill | |
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PAPoUCH Super Elite Lv2: Jr. Vet
Number of posts : 1860 Age : 37 Mood : Points : 298 Registration date : 2007-10-12
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| Subject: Re: Dating Challenge: Crossing the 'Friend Zone' Tue Jul 01, 2008 9:30 pm | |
| - Archlord Demeitri wrote:
- Papouch wrote:
- thanks for the correction.
Nugga do you ever have a sense of humor only when the joke is not on him......that nugga should chill So true | |
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ahmeer Veteran Member Lv3: F***ing Heavy Poster!!
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| Subject: Re: Dating Challenge: Crossing the 'Friend Zone' Wed Jul 02, 2008 3:31 am | |
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kandi Member
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| Subject: Re: Dating Challenge: Crossing the 'Friend Zone' Sat Jul 05, 2008 8:51 am | |
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ahmeer Veteran Member Lv3: F***ing Heavy Poster!!
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| Subject: Re: Dating Challenge: Crossing the 'Friend Zone' Sat Jul 05, 2008 11:16 pm | |
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