Old Love, New love and the whole drama!

Ok guys have a slight problem and I need your help.
There is this guy I've had a crush on for sometime now and everything I start dating he just pops into my head! It's freaking me out! I don't want to end this relationship pre-maturely but, this guy keeps popping into my dreams at the weirdest time! argh
Any advice?

WOW ok how to deal with this kandi any way you work it out some one is getting hurt but my advice follow your heart. it will lead you to a good place and never settle for any thing but the best

i agree with swiss too

*hissteth, if the current guy you are dealing with now, hasn't done anything wrong and treats u right stay with him, and if it doesn't work out then u can give the other guy in your dreams a shot. I hate when females r like this, them have a man but other man inna dem mind, ha that happened to my girl several times, and I told her well u can go give that other guy a chance but don't look back. But I'm sure there are other good guys out there so she would find better or not. Kandi do what u feel, but I would recommend sticking with your current guy, until he messes up badly.

Yea dont leave the nigga, bcuz if things with him is good, then u leave his ass for this nigga that on ur mind, them u might find out that the nigga aint shit and that the first nigga was the one, he might not take ur ass back, so unless there is a reason to leave the current nigga, DO NOT!!!

True, I know that it's one of the worst things to have a girl that thinks about another man. Imagine having sex with her, she'll keep imagining sex with the other guy, that's just fucked up. I think you should tell your current guy, what are your feeling and based on his reaction you'll know what to do. It is better for you to tell him than having him in the dark. He'll tell you how he feels about it. Maybe he'll even tell you what to do. It's better to make your choice early, the longer you wait, the more pain you'll cause.

Papouch wrote:

True, I know that it's one of the worst things to have a girl that thinks about another man. Imagine having sex with her, she'll keep imagining sex with the other guy, that's just fucked up. I think you should tell your current guy, what are your feeling and based on his reaction you'll know what to do. It is better for you to tell him than having him in the dark. He'll tell you how he feels about it. Maybe he'll even tell you what to do. It's better to make your choice early, the longer you wait, the more pain you'll cause.

yeahyeah......

So kandi, what u think?

Well im inclined to agree with many of the views shared. I think u should stay with ur current guy unless u have a good reason for leaving. Talking with himabout ur crush would be good too(if ur current bf is an understanding person). But i think u should look more into ur crush n see if u can find out where all of those feelings are coming from. U should weigh the pros n the cons. Look at the situation. If u already hav somethin good u there's no need to mess it up. After all they say "If it aint broke, don't fix it". But who r we to tell u what to do. if u wanna be with ur crush its up to you (after all this is ur crush we r talkin about, so i would definately hav to explore the possibility of a relationship), jus makes sure that u think carefully n see if exploring a relationship wit ur crush is worth sacrificing ur current relationship. Jus dont get in too deep until u lose control. Remember "the grass isnt always greener on the other side".

My advice to you kandi is be happy, too many times we forget our own happiness because of other people feels and that is super fecal relations if your not happy. do what you need to do to be happy

the best advice i can give it love god and trust him and he'll show the way

if you're going to use the term "god" put the damn "g" in capital letter. Like so God..

Swiss wrote:

if you're going to use the term "god" put the damn "g" in capital letter. Like so God..

True True

Swiss wrote:

if you're going to use the term "god" put the damn "g" in capital letter. Like so God..

thank you swiss

no prob

Thanx.
Did I say I was going to leave him. I didn't.
I said I didn't want to end the relationship pre-maturely because I have feeling for another person. I don't think it's right to be with one and be thinking about another.
Thanx again.
Things with my bf are going great and this guy is fading into the background. yay

ok, good 4 u