A lil advice about dealing with ex's

I am (kinda but really) recently single. My ex and i share manuy of the same friends. Because of this we're constatly around eachother and come into major contact with eachother. I decided to treat him just like how i treat any of the other friends and i have followed through with it. The problem i have is that when i treat him like this (making jokes and whatever) he takes major offense and starts insulting me.

How do you think i should deal with this situation?

PS - really dont want to leave my friends

Oh boy. Rhodz, why?

Well we wont leave any of you and you guys cant leave us. You've been superglued to us friends will deal with things like this if they have to although we might not like it.

thanks... knowing that is highly appreciated but i'm looking for real advice and opinions on this whole scenario.

well i all i can tell you is that you need to speak to your ex and settle things. You might not want to leave your friends but your friends my want to leave you. I mean the constant fear or an argument may become too much for them to bare. just trying having lunch and talking to him.

Wish I could comment.

Sorry .....

Stop trying to be his friend. If he's gonna be all immature about the situation doesn't make any sense you put in the effort. I've been in a similar situation. What I did was completely ignore *coughthemotherfuckercough* him. That plus hanging out a little more with a bunch of other people helps to keep your mind off the ordeal. Keep it up until he eventually grows a brain and gets used to not being your bf anymore and starts trying to be your friend.

It's typical that he feels this way after all you two used to be superglued and now the glue is loosened. And he doesn't know what to do so he hurls insults like a six year old so you notice him. Ignore him! He feels conflicted and cofused about you right now so here my advice, search yourself do you make jokes that offends him? Give your friends alittle space or if you must meet with them do it with out him it makes the healing process faster then when you are strong enough and immune to his childish behavior go back to chilling with you crew. Oh and maybe you should speak with him one away, and get to the bottom of the problem. Good friends are hard to find and if you've found them hold on to them, never let them go.
*ANGEL*

Some sisterly advice the word X BF mean your finished with this individual their is no friendship, no strings attached friends doesn't dis friends unless its a joke and both of you know that a relationship that is over should be behind you not beside you, as it relates to the same friends know that's hard but you cant leave them out because of your X cause friends are for life and X's come and go

Shanmax wrote:

friends are for life and X's come and go

I second that one

*Angel* wrote:

It's typical that he feels this way after all you two used to be superglued and now the glue is loosened. And he doesn't know what to do so he hurls insults like a six year old so you notice him. Ignore him! He feels conflicted and cofused about you right now so here my advice, search yourself do you make jokes that offends him? Give your friends alittle space or if you must meet with them do it with out him it makes the healing process faster then when you are strong enough and immune to his childish behavior go back to chilling with you crew. Oh and maybe you should speak with him one away, and get to the bottom of the problem. Good friends are hard to find and if you've found them hold on to them, never let them go.
*ANGEL*

so why do u women have to make it out as if the guy just born like he has no maturity what so ever...... fact is he may still have feelings for u, and u making jokes off him may hurt him alot on the inside.....
plz learn to look at things on the flip side.

Shanmax wrote:

Some sisterly advice the word X BF mean your finished with this individual their is no friendship, no strings attached friends doesn't dis friends unless its a joke and both of you know that a relationship that is over should be behind you not beside you, as it relates to the same friends know that's hard but you cant leave them out because of your X cause friends are for life and X's come and go

friends arent for life...wake up this isnt a fairy tale....people in general come and go.

i agree yes people do come and go but do you get intimate with your friends do you share some what deep secreats with friends i dont think so person have a tendency to confine in their partners and trust them a hole lot more than their own friend so ladies and gentlemen be careful when involved intimately ok

Darklord Demeitri wrote:

*Angel* wrote:

It's typical that he feels this way after all you two used to be superglued and now the glue is loosened. And he doesn't know what to do so he hurls insults like a six year old so you notice him. Ignore him! He feels conflicted and cofused about you right now so here my advice, search yourself do you make jokes that offends him? Give your friends alittle space or if you must meet with them do it with out him it makes the healing process faster then when you are strong enough and immune to his childish behavior go back to chilling with you crew. Oh and maybe you should speak with him one away, and get to the bottom of the problem. Good friends are hard to find and if you've found them hold on to them, never let them go.
*ANGEL*

so why do u women have to make it out as if the guy just born like he has no maturity what so ever...... fact is he may still have feelings for u, and u making jokes off him may hurt him alot on the inside.....
plz learn to look at things on the flip side.

Shanmax wrote:

Some sisterly advice the word X BF mean your finished with this individual their is no friendship, no strings attached friends doesn't dis friends unless its a joke and both of you know that a relationship that is over should be behind you not beside you, as it relates to the same friends know that's hard but you cant leave them out because of your X cause friends are for life and X's come and go

friends arent for life...wake up this isnt a fairy tale....people in general come and go.

friends are for life with a given few expection that come and goes

What you could do is fuck one of his best friend in the group and he will leave the group and you will get all the friends for your self.
Problem solve... The only problem any thing can happen, so dont take this advise.

Pro-active Reasoning: Well Widow, there is no easy solution to this problem, considering you two have recently been separated means their is still some amount of intimate feelings he maybe carrying even if its not much, so he will be sensitive in certain situations.

Pro-active Solution: I highly suggest trying to re-iterate to him that you guys are no longer together in a subtle manner of your choosing and perhaps leave the jokes he might find offensive until say six months to a year have passed, by then it should be calm enough and you should be able to easily say anything.